Directly go to Follow Up Questions (Part 3 Discussions)
- Who he or she is
- What he or she does for a living
- What he or she is like
- And explain why you admire him or her
There are five members in my family- my parents, my grandparents and sibling. We all live in our home in village/city. We spend time together while helping each other in all easy and difficult situations. Since my father is the head of family and he is earning member, other family members depend on him for their needs. It is my father that would always help me with money and good advice while my mother gives us good care.
Here, I would like to talk about my father who is in his 60s. He is 5 feet 8 inch. He is healthy. He has a traditional Punjabi look. He likes to wear kurta-pyjama, which is a traditional dress in my region. He follows Punjabi culture and lifestyle.
He is the head of our family. He is a farmer. I have always seen him working in farms for livelihood. He grows wheat and rice and also the vegetable. He works hard and earns money to cover expenses of family. He gave us good education and provided us security. When he is close, we feel safe, secure and so much loved. His caring hands give us peace.
He’s very generous to me. He loves me and my siblings very much. He is kind to the family and relatives and almost everyone. He lives in brotherhood with his real brothers as well as all the villagers. They respect him very much. In fact, he is often invited to the village committees, and his suggestions are considered valuable.
The best thing in my father is that he never gets angry. When there is a state of aggression, He stays calm, and handles the situation nicely. His voice carries politeness and lowers the anger of others also. He always tries to understand the meaning behind whatever we say and whatever we do.
When I am in confusion, I always like to take shelter in my father’s authority. My father has done all that a good father must do for his family. My father is like a godly figure to me.
So my father is the person whom I admire.
Part 3: Details Discussion:
Attitudes to the family:
Q. In what ways have families in your country changed in recent years?
A. The families have changed greatly in my country for different reasons and situations. Earlier the families were united but currently, they have been shaped into nuclear families. When people used to live the in the country areas, the families were large but with the advancement of time, the families have broken and took their own shares and formed small families instead of the large ones with the excuse of extensive maintenance cost, misunderstanding and more other issues.
Q. Should husbands and wives have different roles within the family? Why / why not?
A. A husband and a wife should play different roles for different reasons. From time immemorial, males are considered as the bread earners while the females are the homemakers. But the ideas have changed massively in the current days. Now, both the husband and wives are seen engaged in money-earning activities. Moreover, they are sharing their responsibilities between them and thus they are playing different roles in the family.
Family or friends:
Q. Which are more important to you – your family or your friends?
A. My family is the most important thing to me than friends. A Family is a place where you will have everything. The family members will try to support you reasonably; both in good and bad situations and in return, they do not expect anything. It is the most important feature of a family. The family members will never leave you forever, but the scenario is just the opposite with the friends. When there are no benefits in helping you, the friends will be nowhere to be found! They will avoid you in every possible manner. So, my family is my top priority.
Q. What conflicts can arise between a person’s family and a person’s friends?
A. There are different issues that can create trouble between you and your family or you and your friends. Regarding the familial issue, your family members may guide you to the right way but due to your lack of knowledge, you may get involved in arguments over the guidance. You may prefer following the one which appears better to you (although in reality that is not meant for you).
On the other hand, conflicts with friends may range from any trifling matter to a major issue like business loss or life or death situation. Family members are always with the well-wishers or try to make better but the friends are not always with the same thought to make you feel good unless they have any hidden benefit with the issue. The common conflict can arise when someone spends most of his/her time with friends and family members start complaining about it.
Family responsibilities:
Q. What responsibilities do parents have towards their children?
A. Parents naturally love their kids. However, the parents are responsible for everything of their kids from rearing their kids well, educate them, and allow picking the right things for them or their career or even their marriage.
Q. What responsibilities do children have towards their parents?
A. The most important responsibility the children have towards their parents is to abide by all the directives they get from the parents. There are no parents who want to have their kids in distress. So, the children should pay attention to their parents, take care of them in their old age and overall they should respect the parents always
1. Who is important in your family: the father or the mother?
In my family both are equally important. There is a very harmonious relation between my mother and father. Both have different roles and both that equally important. My mother has more role in running the family where is my father has more role in earning for the
family.
2. How should parents look after their children?
Parents should look after the children very nicely. Parenting is a very crucial job and it is a full-time job, especially nowadays, in my opinion. Today, children have a lot of exposure of the global culture, and they enjoy a lot of freedom. So, parents have to be very alert about the whereabouts of their children and treat them in a friendly way, and yet be firm at times.
3. How should working parents look after their children?
Working parents should look after the children very nicely. Whatever time they get, they should devote to their children. They should know where to draw the line between work and family, otherwise it is very easy for children to go astray and it is very easy for parents to lose hold on the children. Work is important but working parents should realise that their children’s childhood is equally important.
4. Do children get sufficient love and affection from their parents these days?
Yes, children get sufficient love and affection from the parents, but this love and affection is substituted by money and not time. Parents think that giving enough money to the children is showing their love for them, they forget that what children need more is the time.
5. What do you think about relationships between teenagers and their parents nowadays?
The relationships between teenagers and parents is very strained these days. Teenagers want to follow the global culture whereas parents want them to follow the traditional culture. Teenagers want to take up subjects of their choice, such as animation, ethical hacking and so on, but parents want them to do the traditional courses like engineering, medicine and commerce.
6. How do children learn to speak?
Children learn to speak from the parents. They observe their parents and speak as their parents teach them to, and slowly they get the hang of the language and learn to speak on their own.
7. Do you think adults speak to children differently than between themselves?
Yes, adults speak to children differently than among themselves. Sometimes they don’t want to show their stress or emotions to their children and so speak differently with them, but when they speak with each other they have no such inhibitions.
8. Do you think human communication is different from that of animals?
Yes, human communication is quite different from that of animals. Humans have a language to communicate with each other, whereas animals communicate in their own way which is difficult for humans to understand.
9. What do you think are good communication skills?
Good communication skills involve being able to convey what you want to say to the other person without creating any misunderstanding. Good communication involves good command over the language and also good command on body language which involves gestures and expressions.
10. Do you think everyone can learn these skills?
Yes, I believe everyone can learn the skills. Communication Skills is a fully fledged subject these days in colleges. However, some people are born with good communication skills and they have a way to communicate their feelings to the other person in a very simple way which does not lead to any misunderstanding.
11. How would you suggest these skills be taught to children?
These skills can be taught to children in many ways. Firstly, parents can be good role models. If parents have good communication skills, children will imbibe communication skills without even being taught formally. Then, this subject can be added in the school curriculum. Nowadays, even in graduate courses like engineering and commerce, communication skills are thought as a subject in the first semester.
12. Do you think adults and children communicate the same way?
No, I don’t think adults and children communicate in the same way. Children are innocent and their communication is plain and simple, which doesn’t involve any twist of words. On the other hand, adults are really careful in what they want to communicate.
13. Can you think of any example of work (or, jobs) that require good communication skills?
I think every job needs good communication skills. For example doctors need good communication skills to convey things to their patients; engineers need good communication skills to work as a team to accomplish many projects; hawkers need communication skills to sell their products and so on. Sales personnel need good communication skills.
14. What (personal) qualities do you think good communicator should have?
I think a good communicator should have an amicable personality. He should also be willing to listen, because I believe that a person who can listen to others can also communicate well.
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